A couple of years ago, I(a BBW) decided I'd never date anyone else who was interested in me "despite" or "regardless of" my body. After years of humans who — no matter how kind or clever or fun they were otherwise — always seemed to have the kind of superiority complex that told them that, deep down, they were doing me a favor by dating a big beautiful girl, I was over it.
I've been in a relationship with my current partner for over four years. But if anything ever happened, I'd want to be with another someone who actually loves my body. But rather, someone who, like me, actually believes that fat can be beautiful and sexy and fuckable.
In an ideal world — one where equality was actualized and the notion of body shaming antiquated — we wouldn't need the new plus size dating site. We would need an site for plus size singles and admirers to find their matches, as noted on the site's landing page, or for "big beautiful women (BBW), big handsome men (BHM), fat admirers, plus size women and their admirers”, because the notion that fat bodies are as desirable as any other body type, in that some people find them desirable and some don't.
If they like the woman first, they don’t notice her size, they just notice her.